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Photo: thoughtcatalog.com I grew up in the company of two impish boys and a father sometimes I wished I could vanquish to a far away Island. At school, I enjoyed the company of guys better than my fellow girlfriends. It was something about the freedom I felt when I was with them. The freedom to be myself because, well, guys, they don’t really give a hoot about things. I would choose hanging out with a guy over a girl any day because it was less dramatic and there was no silent competitions. Then I had my first boy best friend. He was really cute, fun, a lot like me. We were doing great, until oneday he told me he ‘liked liked’ me.  I thought “But I only wanted a bestie in you. Someone I could share my pringles with without things getting intense.  I could never think of us the same way again. “Can women really be best friends with guys without the latter catching feelings and thus, making everything weird and complicated?” Photo: thoughtcatal...

A lot has been said (and written) about how it is always a woman's fault when a 'beautiful' relationship ends. Adding just this short piece won't be the final gavel-dropping exercise to signify an end to this 'discussion'—if I can call it such. It is really depressing to hear a section of society, sometimes women, leading charges against other women who have ended their marriages or relationships on their own terms. The questions often asked of the women who end their relationships include the 'why didn't you stay and work it out?' Some of these 'advisors' also question why these women couldn't endure the problems and 'hold it together' but choose the exit route. www.onesmartsista.com Marriages or relationships are never a smooth sailing affair. It has its bumps as it has its joys. Sometimes, the challenges are so enormous that one cannot hold it together any longer and the surest way to save one's self is...

Photo: eretzsongs.blogspot.com It has been about two years since I had an abortion. But I still relive the pain and fears like it happened just yesterday. I still remember how my mind blacked out, the numbness of my fingers, the dryness of my throat, the fears and anxieties of ‘how the hell did I get pregnant?!’ I am obsessed with NOT ‘accidentally’ getting pregnant again, so much that I think I have started abusing drugs especially ECPs (Emergency Contraceptive Pills); even though I know these are only to be taken in cases of emergencies and not actually to be used as normal birth control pills. 

You get up, blood in face, a loose tooth, bruises on your wrists, with half-closed eyes, you stare and just before you can utter any word, he hits you again. You are left on the floor writhing in pain and when you finally get the strength to drag yourself up, you walk up to him and say “I am sorry” to which he replies “You know I love you, you should stop making me do this to you”.

Women all over the world are progressively stepping out of the cubbyholes and are boldly making their own statements; how they want to and when they want to, without seeking approval from society . This is great achievement. It’s all we’ve been fighting for and will continue to fight for. Below are some astounding quotes we have compiled for you, for when you need some girl-power inspiration to kick through life.

If you live in Ghana, then the name Obinim is not new to you. In fact, you may even be one of the millions who are tired and sick of the sacrilegious gimmicks of this self-acclaimed Man of God with special ‘divinity’ to turn into a lion, a dog, a snake, as a matter of fact any animal he wishes to; so he says in the video below. Obinim has been trending, and for all the wrong reasons. The stepping-on-the-bellies-of-pregnant-women pastor all in the name of deliverance, who threatens to appear to his critics in dreams to punish them, has no regret whatsoever for his gruesome deeds.

S ome years back, in my late teens, I always told myself I’d get married before I was 23. The thought of being able to enjoy life with my companion in holy matrimony without being pressed (physically, psychologically, or biologically) for children was ideal. I wanted to travel the world. Know people. See places. For my partner and I to get our act together before creating and bringing life into this world.   Maybe the motivation came from knowing my parents discovered each other and started life together quite early. My mother had me when she was barely 21. Three kids down the line, my dad is now in his late 40s, with my mom, a little behind. Definitely, the ‘young old couple’ thingy is attractive. But. I’m currently in my mid-20s. And unmarried. So many things replaced the desire for me to tie the knot before 23. I realized, somehow, that there was no rush. My priorities had shifted. There was education, a lot of growing up to do, and basically life! And there was also ...