Is success only measured by a woman's corporate achievements? Has a woman failed if she chooses family over her work?
Ambition.
Success. These two words, despite their different definitions have assumed a
mutually unexclusive meaning. One of these words cannot be said without the
other following. From your days as a child, these two words are spoken in your
ears and you are constantly reminded to be ambitious as it is the surest bet to
becoming successful.
Men
are expected to be ambitious and successful as it is part of what defines them.
For women, ambition and success are something they are encouraged to fight for-
and education is seen as their surest bet to achieving them. Women are told to
be ‘twice as better’ to get to where and earn the privileges their male
colleagues are handed.
Although,
nobody is born with the traits of ambition and success, most are defined by
society or the environment; this reminder, or pressure, means that, a woman who
has been offered the same privileges as a man, must not disappoint. Her
progress is scrutinized by society and her failure criticized –something her
male colleagues get away with.
Despite
the statistics pointing to the fact that, the percentage of women graduating
from various tertiary institutions is increasing (43% according to National
Council for Tertiary Education, 2014 data), the percentage of women heading big
corporate organizations is still low. Those who make it to the top of the
corporate leader are rightly celebrated and become a blueprint for other women
to aspire to emulate.
However,
the questions that have filled my thoughts are these:
a.
Is success only measured by a woman’s corporate achievements?
b.
Has a woman failed if she chooses family over her work?
Women
find themselves in a very dicey situation where they have to balance their
quest for professional success with family success. That is, while they seek
for success in their field of endeavor, they are also to raise their family in
the best way possible. One cannot be sacrificed for another. This situation has
led to some women having to make a choice: choosing to forego raising a family
and staying fully committed to work or choosing family over corporate success.
Those
who have opted for the latter may be regarded as failure since there is ‘nothing
substantial’ to measure her success. For example, take a woman who decides to
quit her job to become a stay home mum, a fancy word for a housewife, and raise
her kids whiles her husband works to feed the family. Twenty or so years on,
when her kids are all grown with good careers, would her efforts and sacrifices
be considered a success?
My
mum was a stay at home mum and I gleaned from her activities that she wanted a
flexible schedule that would allow her to pursue other interests. She did some
business from home which brought her money.
Like
my mum, there are women who want an easy schedule that balances well with their
ambition to have a good family life. Sometimes, their strenuous corporate
schedules make this impossible. Quitting is not an option for many since it
smacks of failure so they stay in, work their hearts out, spend every day of
the week, and sometimes weekends working.
In
an Oct, 2015 article published in the Time
Magazine, it was pointed out that most women are ambitious but they can’t
‘commit to a structure that was setup for 50% of the population’ (the 50%
refers to men).
The
article concluded that many women want careers that fit their lives and not the
opposite. A career flexible enough that balances their professional careers and
family engagements. It is based on this quest that, some women are being
entrepreneurial ditching corporate life and establishing their own business to
control their daily schedules.
In
our current world where ambition serves as the fuel for success coupled with
the out-of-office responsibilities of women, the question worth asking is, how do
we measure the success rate of a woman? How does a woman stay ambitious and
successful without compromising her family life? And has she failed if she
chooses family over work or vice versa?
Article Submitted by Ibrahim (Rahim) Muniru. Find him on Twitter @swayekidd
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