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Response: Why must this be the first sentence uttered by men when you get pregnant?



Before I begin, I'd like to say this post is a response to last Thursday’s post. If you haven't read it yet, please do so here.

I have a personal experience with the whole abortion dilemma, but not in the way you may think. I have never been pregnant, no. The woman in question was my mother.

You see, many years ago my mother became pregnant. She was not married, and she was about to crash into her third decade in this world. So this so-quite-so-young woman became pregnant and the man in question told her the exact thing the man in the previous post told his woman; to get rid of it.

Maybe not with the exact same word, but certainly with the same intent. Thankfully, for me, she refused and here I am today. You see my mother wanted a child. She wanted a child so much that the pregnancy became a blessing to her. So much that she refused to let the opinion of one man sway her. I may never know my real father, but apart from mild genetic curiosity, I don’t want to.

Now I have nothing against abortion, I would even advise it in some cases. But herein lies the problem, abortion is a choice. And like all choices, depending on the situation, it may be a good choice or a bad choice.

However no woman should be pressured into getting an abortion. It is HER body. It is HER life. It is HER choice. The man had no right to decide otherwise. I feel that that woman was pressured by a man who did not want to risk facing his responsibilities. And that is the issue at hand.

But, hey, that’s just my opinion. 

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  1. swaye kidd19 January 2016 at 04:54

    Reminds me of the post by Tiffany (Duaf) on how she removed a pregnancy she wasn't ready to have. I've maintained that they only person who can decide to take away or keep a baby is the mother; if the father isn't ready to accept responsibility.

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    1. Sista Clinik26 January 2016 at 03:37

      Yes. The choice should always be the mother's.

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  2. Unknown19 January 2016 at 12:16

    Women have to know they should not be forced to have an abortion and they should not be scared to raise a child alone.

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    1. Sista Clinik26 January 2016 at 03:53

      Yes. We have to educate women and empower them every way possible.

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