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8 players every woman should know


We have all heard about players. We may have been seeing somebody who had another somebody on the side. But are all players the same, and what is it exactly they are looking for? Well, below are some of the types of players we most probably didn’t know.

1.      The Insecure Player: He enjoys having many women around him. It shoots up his confidence, and makes him feel good about himself. To him, having a lot of women makes him feel more desirable.

2.      The Searching Player: This one is supposedly searching for the ‘perfect woman’. He casually dates so many women at a time, but really commits to none. He is never quality satisfied.

3.      The Playful Player: Somehow like the searching player, but he’s just in for the fun. This player is not ready to deal with the stress or drama that comes with dating, and also not ready to be alone. His usual relationships are those with no strings attached.

4.      The Arrogant player: He feels he is entitled to many women. After all, he is really handsome and accomplished, and the perfect catch. Every woman will die to have him and sadly in most cases, this is true. He runs around being chased by a flock of women, so definitely, it would have to be on his terms.

5.      The Greedy Player: This is just a greedy man who is never satisfied with one woman. He wants them all; tall, short, dark, light-skinned—every one of them.

6.      The Vengeful Player: This one had his heart broken, and is now taking it out on all women. He is a strong believer of the ‘all women are the same’ mantra.

7.      Player by legacy: This is the kind with a tall family history of players. His grandfather most probably was a player, his father had many women, he himself is women-endowed, and hopes his son will be just as good if not better.

There is however a new addition to the players club who is just fascinating. We are yet to figure out why he does what he does. He is called the Intellectual Player.

8.      The Intellectual/ Smart Player: Believe you me this one is very smart. He treats you so good you would not realize you are being played. He gives you the special treatment that makes you feel like you are the one. He doesn't ask for anything. All he wants is to be there for you.

He is naturally intelligent, and general knowledge is his strong suit. On your pursuit for knowledge, he will be your tour guide. You’ll find yourself talking to him each day, sharing your innermost thoughts to which he can obviously relate. He is also very patient, or rather very calculating, and bids his time perfectly until he earns your trust.

The list is not exhaustive, so feel free to drop in the comment box below any player type you know that is not mentioned. We’d also love to hear your thoughts on this.

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