Dealing With The ‘Perfect Guy’

Perfect guys are well, just perfect! They smell great.They taste great. They look great. Everything thing about them is just great!

Now snap out of it.

Reality? No! They are not great. They are insensitive, egoistic, unkind, and vain. Do you doubt?

There’s nothing more frustrating than dating a ‘Perfect Guy’ aka, the ‘fault spotter’. 

Your eyebrows are suddenly unequal, the pimple on your face is disgusting (like you didn’t know already), the dress you absolutely love looks funny, your shoe collection is a disaster, everything you own is ugly except the ones he bought! 

Now men are not exactly made to give that much hoot about looks, and having a man who pays attention to small details like these can be rewarding.

But when it is overly done, and in such manner that it makes you uncomfortable, your self-confidence may start to waver. 

Let’s look at two ‘Perfect Guy’ Scenarios.

‘The Perfect Guy’ Scenario 1

24 year old Judy feels lucky to be the woman in possession of the gem. 

He’s tall, handsome with well-toned muscles, and always looks like he got torn out of a men’s lifestyle magazine.

Tonight, Judy and Max are going on a date. 

Judy steps out in what she thinks is one of her most fab dresses.

Max looks at her like how he would look at an expired can of beans, before blurting out ‘Why are you dressed like that?’

What happens?

Judy’s eyes drop. “But this is my favorite dress”, she murmurs. 

She inevitably feels small.

So does Judy really have a bad taste? Well, consider scenario 2.

‘The Perfect Guy’ Scenario 2

Max takes Judy shopping. 

She’s excited about buying new stuff. 

She finds a shoe she likes; Max turns up his nose.

Now that purse looks cute. Max doesn’t like it. 

Instead he reaches out and picks a green purse.

“This looks good” he says smiling.

Judy smiles too. She dislikes the purse. She hates green!

As weird as this may read, some women constantly have had to deal with the likes of Max. 

On the outside, they seem like the best deal any woman can ask for.

But on the inside, they are confidence sucking leeches.

The Hard Bullets

Any guy who makes you feel less of yourself is toxic, run!

Any guy who makes you feel like your opinions and interests don’t matter will stunt your growth, run!

Any guy who cannot give respect to the things you love, will not give it to you either, run!

Any guy who in anyway makes you feel undeserving of him is deeply flawed, run!

Sista Advice

Unless you know you have an unpardonably bad taste, in which case you might want to get some friends to tell you how you look, please, by all means, own your confidence and rock whatever you feel like wearing. 

Nobody should give a damn, but you!