Sista Clinik’s Ultimate Heartbreak Playlist for Women Going Through a Breakup

Photo Courtesy: Lovepanky.com

Warning: This could get depressing, but oh, what the heck?!

The pain is real. Like that kind of pain you feel when you accidentally hit your finger whiles hammering a nail into a wall. Or when a heavy door slams into four of your fingers without warning. Or when your baby toe accidentally hits something hard and won’t stop hitting into things at the exact spot of first injury throughout the rest of the day. You get the picture.

Heartbreak is pain plus sorrow plus anger plus a little bit (maybe a lot) of insanity. Sometimes it feels like breath is being squeezed out of you or that someone pulled a plastic bag over your head.

Almost every woman has experienced heartbreak—some many times more than others. For those who go scarred deepest and in the most repetitive of ways, every day is an emotional struggle. Dealing with men becomes a task executed with extra precaution because every man becomes a suspect, only in this case, guilty until proven otherwise.

If you’ve recently had your heart broken and the pieces scattered all over places you feel you may never retrieve, or if you’ve experienced its milder forms which has left cracks in your heart like a broken screen of an iPhone, here are 20 of our favorite songs that will resonate with you and your emotions, get you so high on self that you’d forget your pain, at least for a minute, or ultimately, motivate and help you get out of that emotional minefield.

1.      Taylor Swift “I knew you were trouble”

This is for that toxic kind of love where you know from the very start that you are going to get hurt but cannot seem to pull away. You go in telling yourself you will not get in too deep but you end up falling madly in love and get left behind like you knew you would. The thing is, if you had not given this type of love a shot, you would have regretted too. So though it hurts, stay strong knowing that Taylor Swift went through the same but came out wiser, stronger and richer.  

2.      Amy Winehouse “Tears dry on their own”

Indeed, tears do dry on their own but you determine when. Amy made it clear that she wouldn’t cry anymore when she sang “I cannot play myself again”. So let this song empower you to shut off the waterworks and enjoy your life.

3.      Destiny’s Child “Survivor”

Best song to remind yourself of how you hold your destiny in your hands and not in the hands of a man who thinks he is God’s gift to women. For that moment when understanding dawns on you that you have the power to change things in your life and to acquire something way better.

4.      Katy Perry “Roar”

Perfect song to unleash your inner beast. For when you want to sub them or send them a message that you’re getting back on your feet, putting the pieces together, and becoming stronger than ever.

5.      Taylor Swift “We’re never getting back together”

Go on girl. Sing with Taylor “we are never ever ever getting back together”. This is the mantra for that relationship that never goes nowhere. Some on-off ‘distin’. Today you are on a romantic candlelit dinner, tomorrow you do not hear from him and he comes back with “I’m busy” or some sad story. No! No! No! Enough is enough! It’s good you left the boys behind. It is now time for the men who know what they want.

6.      David Guetta, Sia “Titanium”

“I’m bulletproof, nothing to lose. Fire away, fire away. Ricochet, you take your aim. Fire away, fire away. You shoot me down but I won’t fall. I am TITANIUM.” You are titanium girl and your ex can never hurt you. No matter how low he stoops, remember things only hurt when you let them. You’ve got this girl!

7.      Stronger - Kelly Clarkson

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. You may have heard this quote over and over again but you will need it to get over this breakup. You have learnt your lesson now and if only you will see past the pain, you will see all the positive things Kelly stated in the song.

8.      Gloria Gaynor “I will survive”

This is the all-time getting over a breakup song. This song reminds you of why you shouldn’t go back to the ex, why you should pick up the pieces of your shattered heart and move on, how to survive and be strong, how to stand up to the ex should he come back and say “hey! I deserve better!” how to turn the heartbreak into something positive that will quicken your growth and maturity.

9.      Supremes “You just keep me hanging on”

Warning: You might be tempted to forward this to your heartbreaker after listening.

For when you’re darn tired of men who won’t fully commit and yet will not set you free. Like the title of the song, they just want to keep you hanging on. In Ghana such behaviour is termed “konongo kaya” loosely translated as “People who won’t carry and yet do not want anyone else to carry too”.

10.   Beyoncé “Irreplaceable”

Though Queen Bey was telling her ex (?) how dispensable he was and how quickly he will be replaced, you should rather focus on the meaning of the word “irreplaceable” when listening to this song. Because that is who you are. You are irreplaceable and he will never find someone like you. You geddit? Yeah, his loss.

11.  Adele “Rolling in the deep”

Adele should be crowned queen of getting over breakup songs. She seems to know exactly how you feel and somehow understands your plight. Rolling in the deep is to help you understand that some people just don’t understand this thing called love and you are better off without them.

12.   Cher “Believe”

Ohh! Oh! Do you believe in life after love? Uh huh! There is life after love and that is what you should be thinking of. After all, you were living before you met him so his leaving shouldn’t stop you from living again. Remember that the best revenge for an ex is to get better. Thus, grow out of the love you have for him; move on and be very happy.

13.  Britney Spears “Stronger” (What Doesn’t Kill You)

We all know Britney has gone through a lot, but somehow after every problem, she comes out stronger and that is what you should be; STRONGER. Find your inner strength and scream with the pop singer “I’m not your property as from today, baby. You might think that I won’t make it on my own but now I’m stronger than yesterday. Now it’s nothing but my way”.

14.  Justin Timberlake “Cry Me A River”

Allow Justin Timberlake’s smooth voice to soothe you as you deal with the pain of losing someone you once held dear to your heart. But this should be only a while. The relationship might have ended up with a mutual agreement or one person calling it off; whichever way, it does not matter. What matters is getting back up and maybe finding your own Jessica Biel.

15.  Katy Perry “Part of Me”

Relationships have a way of taking so much from us especially the wrong kind. Katy sang “but you’re not gonna break my soul. This is a part of me that you’re never gonna ever take away from me, no”. So remember this, it is only over when you say it is and no man is worth losing yourself for. 

16.  Kelly Clarkson “Since you've been gone”

Most of Kelly Clarkson’s songs are about self-empowerment and this is exactly what you will need to get back up. Kelly has a way of reminding you why a minor setback shouldn’t deter your purpose but rather use it as a stepping stone to get you back on your feet. Let this song be your anthem as you get in touch with your powerful self. 

17.  Linkin Park “In The End”

This here reminds you of how quickly time flies and how fate always win. You may have tried to make it work over and over again but it didn’t and that is alright. Time is what you need to heal this wound, but don’t stay there too long because while you are thinking about the could-have-beens, life is going on. 

18.  Adele “Someone Like You”

The lyrics of this song serves as encouragement for those taken-in-good-faith breakups. Everything seemed alright. You two were perfect for each other yet circumstances prevented you from being together. All you feel in your heart is affection and cannot help but wish him the best while praying you find someone like him or even more than him to spend eternity with. 

19.  Carly Rae Jepsen “Tonight I’m Getting Over You”

Anger is natural when it comes to bad breakups and rather than smashing your ex’s car windows or crushing his heart in your hands, literally, how about channeling the anger by singing this song at a Karaoke Bar? Let your rage flow with every note you sing and then let go. 

20.  Anna Kendrick “Cups”

This song has been on the lips of many teenagers who sing it without fully understanding the message. “You don’t know what you have until it’s gone”. That ex may not know it now but you need some reminding. You are amazing. Sing this song with that in mind. “You’re gonna miss me when I’m gone. You’re gonna miss me by walk. You’re gonna miss me by my talk. You’re gonna miss me when I’m gone”.

What songs helped you through a breakup? Please share in a comment below.