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Photo: Maureen Alikor On the 16th of November 2016, my door was forced open by armed robbers who immediately striped us of all our devices and valuables. Myself and a friend. With a gun to our head, we were commanded to strip. We did. Yes, we were raped at gun point. All our pleas fell on deaf ears as they had their way, and left. Few minutes later, mobile policemen and neighbors began to converge in their neighborly pattern; in twos and threes, with folded arms, solemn looks, bowed heads and pitiful eyes; with much “sorry” and “take heart” to give, and curses intended to follow the rapists/armed robbers. But soon they left in their trickles. Fast forward to the next morning, neighbors and sympathizers converged yet again, and started dishing out various kinds of words of encouragement and advice on what to do; ranging from taking my pants to prayer altars so as to lay curses on the culprits, to burying the panties thereby burying their destinies. Others said, to...

Photo: Sofeminine.co.uk You have liked, loved, and had an ocean of patience to make things work. You have found yourself frequently questioning if the feeling is mutual because you seem to be the only one doing all the work. It’s as if you are the only one who wants it, and that bad.    Many times you have fought the urge to drop the bomb question “So what’s happening? Where are we headed, you and I?” but let it go because you do not want to sound desperate, even in your own ears. And when you finally get the courage to ask some warranted questions, you are met with tense, on edge behavior that makes you feel like you’re the one clingy of all sorts. Finding yourself in a relationship that is going nowhere is like a dog trying to catch his own tail. You keep running around in circles of your own until you are dog-tired; spent from all that convoluted chase. But are you blind to the reality that’s hitting you? No. A lot of women know when their love is unreq...

Photo: YourTango What screws us up the most in life is the picture in our head of what it’s supposed to be. __Socrates Steve Harvey in his book “Think like a man, Act like a lady” describes a woman’s love as; "Nothing on this planet can compare with a woman’s love—it is kind and compassionate, patient and nurturing, generous and sweet and unconditional. Pure. If you are her man, she will walk on water and through a mountain for you, too, no matter how you’ve acted out, no matter what crazy thing you’ve done, no matter the time or demand. If you are her man, she will talk to you until there just aren’t any more words left to say, encourage you when you’re at rock bottom and think there just isn’t any way out, hold you in her arms when you’re sick, and laugh with you when you’re up. And if you’re her man and that woman loves you —I mean really loves you? —she will shine you up when you’re dusty, encourage you when you’re down, defend you even when she’s not so s...