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Female Sexual Coercion: How Vera Prokop Asante ended up with two finger-shaped bruises on her hip



My story, while not as jarring as others, still goes to prove the fundamental wrongness in our society.

Some years ago, I worked as a supervisor in a supermarket. Before I go on I should state that I'm not native to this country as it has relevance in this story.

One day, a sailor from one of the countries bordering mine came to buy some provisions before heading back to his motherland. Seeing as he could barely speak English, I volunteered to help out.

It immediately became obvious that the man had indulged in the ‘spirits’ prior to his excursion; that is to say he reeked of alcohol. The man's more sober companion left to make his own purchases while leaving me to handle his inebriated friend.

Initially I tried to lead the man to my manager's office, hoping that the manager would help deal with him. To my shock, my manager waved me off stating he had a meeting and did not want any interruption.

Trying to avoid causing a scene, I led the man round the shop in order to keep him busy and away from trouble. Here things took a turn for the worse. He began to make comments and suggestions about taking me to his hotel room.

When I did not prove to be receptive, he pinned me against a wall; on a staircase teeming with customers and staff. With will alone, I convinced him to let me go and managed to locate his mildly-apologetic friend. 

  
When they were gone, I approached another supervisor, an older woman who had witnessed the incident, and asked her why she did nothing to help me.

She responded that she, and the other staff thought I was enjoying the attention. I came out of that experience with a loss to my belief in humanity and two finger-shaped bruises on my hip.



About The Author:



My name is Asante Prokop Vera. I am a poet and aspiring writer. I post poetry on Deviantart and Deep Underground Poetry under the name cosmosalone200. My poetry can also be found on my Facebook Notes.

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  1. First of all sorry you had to go through all that because you decided to help, and for your supervisor no words for her.

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    1. Thank you for reading Elijah. We are sure Vera appreciates your concern for her.

      Regards,
      Sista

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  2. She responded that she, and the other staff thought I was enjoying the attention.

    This comment really annoys me. What kind of humans are we raising? Why will she just assume that you like it. This is so silly, calloused and unreal.

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  3. feeling bad next time let him know you have friends who can cause him to feel pains in places he never knew of

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  4. Wow!... i'm more upset with the comments of the women than the drunk man. How can you even think like that? - At least the fellow was drunk (not a reason to justify his actions but we'll give him credit for not being in his full sense) but the women (witnesses) DESPICABLE!

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  5. Thinking for others....such a turn down 👇

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