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Perfection is overrated. You were made more to enjoy the journey than to focus on the destination. There’s so much beauty in your flaws. You display the authentic beauty of your creator through your originality. You were made to stand out in beauty, not to fit into the preferred framework that the status quo draws out for you. You are a force to be reckoned with, give yourself permission to fly and you will see! Hello there imperfect, You are doing just great. It does not feel like it, does not seem like, you need to coldly declare that you are okay and you are on your way, you need to say it like you mean it, It’s all in your mind. You need to perceive your worth before you can affect your actions. You were made beautifully and wonderfully, you are crafted without error, you are cut out for great things. Think about this until you believe it.  Hello there imperfect, It’s not them, it’s you. That my dear is true. You have the power to change things, you have the...

“Many do not put women first because society (including women) has trained them not to regard women. It is always about them (MEN). The needs of such men come first all the time. Which is why I said women and men alike should get into the heads of people they meet rather than focusing on similarities, interests, "love", infatuation etc. Some of my friends have done the things you spoke of in the article, no denying that. It comes down to the fabric of society.” The above quote was drawn from Kwabena Ahenkorah’s comment on a post here titled ‘Why must this be the first sentence uttered by men when you get pregnant? This comment took my mind back to a novel I read in my teenage years when a man told his woman before they got married that he didn’t want to have children. She did not take him seriously, or if she did, she believed time would erase the fear, dislike or whatever it was that triggered such stand. I mean let’s face it, who will hold a baby, know...

Today’s post is more of a discussion. We want you to share your thoughts on this one—especially the men.   I was with a guy I had developed strong feelings for. The ‘relationship’ was young, and we were that crazy about each other. I was pretty sure we were in deep, but being the listener that I was, a couple of his passing comments would strike me deep. He never failed to let me know he was in for the ride, without commitments, whatsoever. I thought perhaps I wasn’t showing him enough love. So I multiplied the attention I gave him, showered him twice as much love, all in hope that he would see me as part of his future. A couple of men speak about how they are with women they do not like simply because they are an easy catch, or are always there when they need to satisfy sexual urges.  Some of them have even gone to the extent of announcing their intention to these women; that they will never marry them, and it doesn’t go beyond the sex. So what exac...