“NOBODY WANTS IT UNTIL THEY SAY THEY DO. IT IS VERBAL. YES. NO. NOT NOW. LET’S DO THIS, NOT THAT. NEVER. NOT BODY LANGUAGE, PLEASE, SPOKEN WORDS!” These were the words of Amma Konadu, and I couldn't agree with her more. A woman’s ‘No’ means ‘No’. Just that. Whether it is whispered softly or screamed from out of her lungs, and I find it off beam that men would rather choose to interpret this as consent, or as the woman playing hard to get. No. It doesn’t work that way. Sex is supposed to be consensual. It’s supposed to be a ‘ yes, yes’ not a ‘ yes, no ’, ‘ yes, maybe ’, or even a ‘yes, silence ’. No woman deserves to be ‘muted’. We have a voice, and we mean what we say no matter how we say it or where we say it. After reading Sista's post on Female Sexual Coercion and how women really felt, I too wanted to share my story. I fell in love with a man I’d like to call Frank. The relationship, previously, had been on and off for about 3 years unt...
Empowerment over Judgment