A man who doesn’t help is 'busy'. A woman who doesn’t help is 'selfish.' Anytime there is a party to plan at my office, food to share, water to serve, coffee to be made, desks and office machines to be cleaned, floor to be moped etc, everyone in the office looks at me. I am a woman, and I am supposed to be used to these things? And when I refuse to do them, I am called lazy, selfish or ‘not a wife material’. Yes, ‘not a wife material’. When I started work at my current office, I was informed the lady before me was doing the dishes among other ‘office housework’ which I found appalling. I was then informed by her (we are in the same church) that she was forced to do so in addition to her secretarial job. I found this very wrong. After a while and some remarks, I realized I was expected to do same, but I could not be bothered. I refused to play the position of a housekeeper when I have been hired for another job. I however did not fully g...
Empowerment over Judgment